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Partners in Education
Now that we are back to school for a couple of months – time to establish a smooth, comfortable partnership with teachers and other school staff. Strong home/school communication is probably the most important element in a successful school life for your child. Many of the frustrations and almost all of the misunderstandings between parents and school staff are due to communication failures.
Be positive, be proactive, be a partner, and be patient!
Ideas on how to establish a good partnership.
-Listening is a powerful sign of respect. Parents need to listen to school staff, and they need to listen to you. Both viewpoints help your child be successful, so everybody has to be open-minded — it’s a two-way street.
-Parents who are a positive voice in the school have a greater impact when they express a concern. Compliment school staff, send thank you notes, and send positive letters at the end of every year. Be specific about what you and your child have appreciated.
-Parents who are involved in the school community and can call people by name have more opportunities for good communication. Volunteering is an especially comfortable, natural way to meet teachers and know what’s going on in the school. Volunteering opportunities include: helping out at the Halloween Dance, Cut and Paste on Thursday mornings, helping out with P.A.R.T.S. parents for the arts, contact Mr. Daly (firstname.lastname@example.org), lunch time supervision,(let your child’s teacher know when you can help out), help serve at the PAC pasta lunches, or attend the PAC meetings. Our next meeting is on Nov 14, 6:50-8pm.
-If you communicate with the assumption that everyone at the school wants the best for your child, it’s more likely to be true. Most people try to live up to expectations, and if you expect the best you just may get it. Remember that your idea of “best” and the school’s idea of “best” may not be the same. If so, it’s time for everyone to listen and respect the other viewpoint.
-The teacher isn’t the only person at school who can answer questions and provide assistance. Guidance counselors, support teachers, and school nurses are there to support students and their families. All you have to do is call the school office! 873-4372. Some of these student support folks are itinerant — they go to several different schools — so you may need to leave a message.
-Follow the chain of command if you have questions or concerns. Teachers are in charge of their classroom, principals are in charge of their school, central office personnel are in charge of departments (e.g. special education, transportation), the superintendent of schools is in charge of the whole school system, and the school board is responsible for everyone and everything. The school board is elected, and they answer to you as a citizen of your community. Start at the classroom level and work your way up. It’s always best to start with the person most involved with the problem — usually the teacher.
Let’s look at some specifics now, because details can make or break your channels of communication.
-It’s hard to get in touch with teachers during the day, because they’re busy in the classroom and can’t be interrupted with phone calls and visits. Find out what time of day and method of communication your child’s teacher prefers. The generic e-mail is your child’s teacher first name . your child’s teacher last name @yk1.nt.ca
-Right before school and right after school are usually very busy times for teachers, and it’s can be hard for them to talk with parents. If you need to talk at length, make an appointment for a conference.
-Ask the teacher whether she prefers phone calls, notes, or e-mails, and use that method of communication. Some teachers like to use your child’s agenda for jotting notes that goes back and forth between home and school. Check your child’s backpack.
-Find out the best time to call the teacher, just in case you ever have to call. The school secretary can always take a message if you have an emergency or other urgent business. Make sure the school has your latest phone numbers at home and at work, in case there is an emergency at school.
-If you are going to be in an official parent/teacher conference, make sure it’s set up in a businesslike way. No one likes to be surprised, and surprises make people defensive. Defensive people can’t listen well and aren’t in a cooperative mood!
So what can you do to jumpstart a strong partnership and effective home-school communication? The most powerful thing you can do is to become a reliable, positive, strong member of the school community. This means that you can call everyone at school by name, you’re a member of the PAC, you volunteer whenever and however you can, you attend school conferences and school events, you are actively involved in your child’s academic progress, and you communicate regularly with the teacher — in person or in writing. Your child will thank you for it!
Adapted from noparentleftbehind.com
Are your children ready to learn at school? That’s one of the major responsibilities we have as parents! Children who are ready to learn are well-rested, fed, dressed appropriately, and clean. They arrive at school on time, with completed homework in their backpacks. They have a healthy lunch and snack.
The easiest way to make sure that your children are ready to learn, every day, is to establish strong routines at home. A morning routine, evening routine, and homework routine are powerful ways to support your children’s education at school. Here is a sample Morning Routine.
The morning routine
Sending everyone off to work and school in a happy, calm, relaxed mood is a wonderful gift that you can give your family every day.
Marbles work great, as a reward system. If a child gets up on time, they earn 5 marbles, place pj’s under pillow 3 marbles. You decide on the number of marbles they earn. When they have earned a 100 marbles they receive a treat. Place the marbles in an empty glass jar (e.g. old jam jar). If the task is not completed, you do it and remove the number of marbles they would have earned. Children learn that your services/time is important too and you earn marbles also and receive a treat when you have 100 marbles.
Adapted from No More Parents Left Behind.